If CPS were My Child
This is a Challenge for All to Write
I have a little project for All of us to work on. The main theme is If CPS were My Child? My hope is to get ideas from this group and then take this to other groups to get other ideas. I hope to create an eReference with this information. In addition, I will be adding as links at the bottom of this Title, the groups that participated. So please, feel free to take this subject to other Groups. I will be listing thoughts as CPS Parent 1, CPS Parent 2, etc. (See Some Responses below) but keeping track of the responder. (Please send your ideas directly to me, with your group, website, or whatever address you want to use) GranPa Chucks email
Some of you may think GranPa Chuck has gone completely Crazy. But consider these thoughts.
**For years I have asked the Question: If you were put in charge of the Child Protective Agency, what would you do to Change It?? Many have said Abolish it. An effort the late Senator Schaeffer of Georgia tried to do. However, the most common suggestion was to make the agency and its employees Responsible for Their Actions. Compare this with what we want to teach Our Children.. Make them Responsible for Their Actions.
**Many have said that the Agency is in it for the Money. So very true. And in a post As adoption costs rise people turn to foster care! It is very obvious that even some adoptive parents are in it for the money. Part of the last paragraph as reference: She views the money as "icing on the cake." She says adoption is "the best thing I've ever done." (Link)What do we attempt to teach our children? Greed is evil and Sharing and Caring for others is Good.
**As we all have shared CPSs main objective, when an Allegation is made, is to make a Parent feel like they are the Worst Parent in the World. What do we attempt to teach our Children? Be proud of your self, no matter what characteristics you have.
These are just a few of my thoughts. I know there may be many more. So have fun and compare the things you are attempting with your child(ren) with the things that CPS is not doing.
Bad child CPS.. Bad Child!!
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If CPS were my Child
As parents we all want our children to learn certain things such as:
Show respect for others themselves, others and surroundings
Have a love for learning.
Be responsible for their actions and reactions.
When they see someone in need pitch in to help
Don't do drugs
We all know that because of the money CPS fails to do ANY of these things.
CPS does not conduct business honestly or honorably. In fact they will lie, cheat and steal to and from your children. All of this just to get money from the federal government in the form of adoption bonuses, and foster care grants. If CPS were my child the first rule would be to proceed with honesty. That would mean that when a social worker came to a home with 2 dishes in the sink the report would read "there were 2 dishes in the sink" not the usual "the sink was overfilled with moldy dishes".
If CPS were my child the second thing I would look teach is R.E.S.P.E.C.T. I would teach them that they should respect themselves, others, and their surroundings. That means being tolerant, mindful, and open minded of different ways of learning, different religions, different ethnic and cultural values. Social workers going into people's homes should be respectful, knowledgeable, and sensitive to different ways of living and thinking. They should not try to project their values on to the people they are dealing with.
If CPS were my child I would instill in them a love of learning. It is a proven fact that those people that continue to learn new skills and information live longer than those that become stagnant. For CPS learning new things would include conducting investigations with the true best interest of the child in mind at ALL times! It would include learning how to be creatively manage each case so that the best outcome for the child is ALWAYS met. That would include thinking outside of the box along with constantly adding to the tool box of services and interventions that can be used in their cases. As parents know parenting is not a one size fits every child kind of proposition, and child protection should not be either.
One of the biggest areas that needs improvement in the CPS system is being responsible for actions and reactions. Too often a social worker will flash back on their own childhood, take a personal dislike to any of the players in the game, or just plain decide their way is best. In any case neither social workers or family court judges or any other personnel in the system have any checks and balances. In criminal court a person can face their accuser, they have rights, but that does not happen in family court. We as parents expect our children to take responsibility when they do something wrong and correct it, should we expect less of this powerful government run agency I think NOT!! CPS as it exists today has no responsibility they don't have to answer to anyone except us the people that can get things changed! CPS loves to blame the parents, foster parents, dog etc... Anyone except themselves when something goes wrong and a tragedy occurs. When social workers and/or foster parents do show initiative and try to advocate for the children they are often fired or forced to resign because the ridicule, bullying or false accusations. One way of holding CPS responsible is to do away with the family court system, and then when there were real abuse cases try them as you would a criminal case that way the accused gets all the rights afforded them in the constitution of the US. We ask our children to be respectful and with respect comes responsibility I think it is time that we held CPS to that standard too.
As parents we also love to instill in our children the spirit of altruism which means : unselfish regard for or devotion to the welfare of others. We have people in our communities that are willing and able to help struggling families, but they don't know how or they are afraid. We could do this with CPS by finding these people and hooking them up with families in need or crisis. Maybe a family needs repairs to their house so it would be safe to live in. CPS has a list of contractors that will donate a few hours for a tax write off. A young mom needs a mentor to help her learn how to balance a budget, shop for the month, clean house CPS has a list of willing volunteers. You see not so long ago in history this was the way it was communities pitched in and helped their members, now people are too scared and they think they are too busy. Look at the cost look at thousands of children in foster care, many that could have been spared the loss of their families if community members had known how to help, and CPS would see something besides dollar signs!
Undeniably a large part of parenting today is aimed at keeping children off of drugs. However CPS tries to put children on drugs to keep them "calm". We are seeing massive amounts of children on various drugs. We are seeing behaviors that a few years ago were labeled as active children instead now being called "ADHD". Several studies indicate that children that are put on these meds turn to other drugs later in their teens. Meth is a huge issue in our society today, and many of the children seized are because the parents are in the throes of addiction. Several studies have indicated that a meth users chance of staying sober are increased with several months stay in a detox/rehab center. CPS should use the money it gets to snatch children and instead of grabbing them develop some long term residential treatment centers that include family counseling, and life skills.
The old adage "If you always do what you have always done you will always get what you have always gotten." comes into play when talking about CPS. If we continue to do things as we have always done more kids are going to suffer. Somehow we have to find the courage to try new things, even at the risk of failure(there is no failure for you always learn something). We must stop CPS from creating broken, drugged, rejected, and abused in every way children. We must find a way to build healthy, happy, respectful, altruistic, drug free, abuse free children. We cannot afford to wait for someone else to do it, my children have been harmed so have yours, and don't think for a minute that if it hasn't happened to you that it won't! We must find ways to hold the system responsible, keep them honest, provide them with the tools they need to learn new strategies, provide them with education about cultural and ethnic diversity. We especially need to send a strong message to please listen to the children! Stop drugging the children, and most of all STOP hurting the children that you supposedly want to help!
If CPS were my Child and bullied everyone
I would have to research why the child was behaving this way, after finding money at the root of evil. I would have to restrict access, and the money would have to be verified each time a withdrawal would be made in the good of others.
1) first steps would be making the hotline no longer anonymous if you are truly concerned with a child, then obviously you would have no concerns about keeping your name concealed.
2) Identify different characteristics in children with known behavioral backgrounds. ie.... why is this child now making allegations, what happened at home for this child to retaliate?
3) abolish the system and make social workers provide care, counseling, resources, hands on parenting help, no longer will the social worker have more power then the police.
4) return authority to the police to investigate, arrest, child protections, give resources other then child removal
5) kinship care is number one, no other care will be offered. Children ought to be with their family, no other care is necessary.
6) Training will include a social worker/child swap. Put the social worker in the home of the foster parent take away everything, no telephone, no help, no siblings, no personal property, no friends, new school, lots of appointments for more medication, no rights, no happiness, no visitation with parents/siblings.
7) emergency orders of protections can only happen when hard evidence is presented with physical facts, findings, etc. No more removal on a whim. The parents have to be notified before any interviews can occur with children in the home and have to give their consent.
8) Schools have no power to act as parents, and can be held responsible for the damage they do for these hotline calls.
9) GAL have to meet with the parents, families, etc...no more of going on what CPS says.
10) Juvenile court becomes open to the public to stop all the secrecy
11) Juvenile officers only have the power to remove if referred to by the judge after an initial investigation after the police have conducted and verified on an evidentiary standard that yes in fact it happened.
12) Parents have immediate free legal intervention at the beginning of a hotline, and no removal occurs unless a trial has been held by a family judge NOT juvenile.
13) If the child is removed they can only be placed with kinship care providers, as well as only adopted by family members. Visitation with family and parents begins on day two...
I believe the greatest amount of change would occur then.
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Would-be parents turn to foster kids as adoption costs rise
"..icing on the cake????"
At Adoption-Link in Oak Park, Ill., a lot of people call to inquire about private adoptions, but when told the fees, they say, "Oh my goodness, I can't afford that," says director Margaret Fleming. She refers them to foster care.
Private adoptions can cost $20,000 or more because of agency, travel and birth-mother expenses. Many parents want healthy newborns, so demand typically exceeds supply. Foster-care adoptions can cost nothing because states pick up the tab. Many of the 129,000 foster kids available for adoption are older median age is 8 and are more likely to have emotional or physical problems.
Applications for private adoptions are slowing, but those for foster care are holding steady or increasing, according to interviews with state officials and more than a dozen large adoption agencies.
"The pendulum is swinging," says Sharen Ford, of Colorado's Department of Human Services. She sees two primary reasons: cost and the decline in the number of foreign-born orphans available since several governments changed their adoption policies. Guatemala and Vietnam have stopped taking new U.S. applications; Russia and China have tightened eligibility.
In November, Ford says, an adoption fair in Colorado Springs drew 1,300 people, and 260 decided to adopt foster children. Ford says many were surprised to learn that the adoptions cost nothing and that most of the kids get state health insurance and monthly subsidies. She says Colorado's foster-child adoptions are on pace to increase 8% this year.
In Michigan, the number of families given new licenses to become foster parents, often the first step toward adoption, increased from 65 in November to 122 in January, says Edward Woods of the Michigan Department of Human Services.
"Our adoption inquiry rate is as high as it's ever been," says Dixie Davis, president of The Adoption Exchange, a national organization. She says it got 3,284 inquiries in March, up 9% from a year ago.
There are no current national figures on adoption of foster children. In 2007, the most recent year for which government figures are available, there were 51,000 adoptions of foster children, a number largely unchanged since 2002. There are about 80,000 private adoptions each year, the National Council for Adoption says.
Agencies report increased interest in foster kids:
Arizona Adoption & Foster Care, a private agency in Mesa, Ariz., has 79 families approved and waiting to adopt from foster care, up from 49 a year ago. Its number of such adoptions doubled last year to 30, and so far this year it has handled 19, director Marcia Reck says.
Adoptions Together in Silver Spring, Md., is getting 50 inquiries a month, up from 40 a month less than a year ago.
At Bethany Christian Services in Grand Rapids, Mich., adoptions from foster care rose from 402 in 2007 to 459 last year. Kinship Center, a private agency in Salinas, Calif., has been getting 20% more inquiries for foster care in the past six months, executive vice president Carol Bishop says.
Parents who adopt foster kids say the subsidies, which can range from $300 to $1,000, are helpful, but what motivates them is their desire to give children a home.
"I knew there was a real need," says Shauna Brown, who adopted two sisters, now 6 and 9, from foster care last year. In Texas, Terra Coyle, 50, says she felt drawn to picture ads of needy foster kids. Last year, she and her husband adopted two girls, each of whom gets a $400 monthly subsidy. She views the money as "icing on the cake." She says adoption is "the best thing I've ever done." Her 8-year-old told her, "I just love being part of this family."