"There is no training needed to be a State Director
or Advocate, you've had all the
training you need by your "Life Experiences" or living through the nightmare of allegations.
from your heart and about what you have experienced."
First and Foremost, I
would like to thank everyone who has chosen to represent their
state, and some more than one state. It is so important that we know
our state policies and guide others. I have colored the states to
for states with representation; and
for states with no representation. White arrows are for a
representative covering more than one state. Need to do a little
clean up for a sharp map.
For anyone who
is interested in becoming a state director for NFPCAR, the following
are some of the things we have discussed in the past. Also,
Advocates are always wanted to support and assist the director as
part of the State Team.
With the fact
that we have lives outside of the group, we're moving along slowly,
but we're moving. Our group is trying to bring the issue of
allegations to the forefront. We can do that by making people aware
of the problem and not allowing it to be kept a "secret" any
For right now,
our state director's need to contact their state and local foster
parent associations for referrals. We want to let them know we are
a support group for foster and adoptive parents who have had
allegations made against them and ask when someone calls in, to
refer them to us. I'm sure we all remember, only too well, when we
felt so alone. Besides being advocates for reform, we are a support
about putting up flyers on bulletin boards in grocery stores,
Laundromats, etc.; taking out ads in our newspapers; passing out
business cards and we'll be looking into public service
announcements to see if that's possible. We have members who are on
committees, working with a judge, speaking before legislators,
writing books, presenting at conferences, etc. Even if you don't
have the resources to do anything like this, do what you can.
You need to
contact the legislators in your state concerning foster parent
allegations, to bring the issue to their attention.
One thing that
is expected of the state director's is when we have the opportunity
to respond to someone, such as when there is a request to write a
letter to an individual or group about allegations, I would like at
least the director's to respond. We can't miss these opportunities
to voice our opinions. When there is an article in your local
newspaper about foster parenting, send a letter to the editor
explaining the reason for the decrease in people who are willing to
do foster care (allegations).
We also want
each state director to look for different foster parent
organizations or groups in their state on the Internet and write to
them. We need to increase our numbers, only then will our voices be
The only thing I
ask everyone is not to say anything that would portray our group as
a radical or negative one, such as all social workers are liars,
that the whole system stinks, or anything of that nature. Keep in
mind that there are areas that the system does work and there are
workers who do care. At all times, be respectful and professional.
We can rant and rave all we want to our group, but that needs to be
left on the group and not when we're talking to others. Remember
that you are representing all of us and other members are working on
things that have not been presented to the group. We can't do
anything to jeopardize their work, our integrity or the name we are
trying to build.
Once we are
working our non-profit status and we have formed a board of
directors. It is hoped that we can meet a least once a year for at
the NFPA Conference to man our booth. We have applied for a grant.
In this past,
we've had an article in Fostering Families Today about NFPCAR and
have been contacted by MSNBC, The O'Reilly Factor, Montel and the
director of a documentary film. Even though we didn't make
appearances on all the shows, at least they know we exist.
Website now has a webpage for your state chapter. Currently, we are
working to add information for each state. If you have any
additional information to add to your state page, please contact our
As a state
director, you'll receive business cards with your name on them, a
t-shirt transfer with our logo and the State Chapter on it, along
with the instructions for ironing it on a t-shirt. You'll get a few
brochures, flyers that can be put up on bulletin boards, a window
decal that you can put in your car window and a few articles about
There is no
training needed to be a state director, you've had all the training
you need by living through the nightmare of allegations. Speak from
your heart and about what you have experienced.
Thanks from All
of Us of NFPCAR
and Letter by Linda, Our Founder; Revised 04/24/08 Back to Top
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(Note: As of
04/27/2010, 3:26PM PST there were 78,141 Messages Posted; and
815 Members. On 04/16/2011, we will post the New total to
honor our 10 years as a discussion group. Through Sharing,
Caring, and Guidance, there has been alot of useful
information.. And much of the Original Ideas and Discussion are part
of our NFPCAR website information.)
Madelene and I would like to welcome you to the newly
formed Foster Parent Allegation group! Please bear with
us while we are getting things started. This will be an
organized effort to advocate for changes in the way
allegations are handled and to bring about a public
awareness of this issue which is out of control. We
encourage everyone to read Dr. Bruce Perry's website and
to enroll in his online classes. He is an expert in
child trauma and it is with his research that we will
"arm" ourselves when advocating for change.