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Under no circumstances do we condone child abuse/neglect in any form. However, we recognize there are circumstances which make some foster and adoptive families especially vulnerable to reports of abuse/neglect and susceptible to misjudgments. These circumstances are as follows:

**Children who have experienced the uncertainties and insecurities of years of foster care, often with multiple moves, have been damaged in ways which affect their behavior for years. Many children who have suffered such damage have learned maladaptive or anti-social coping behaviors. They are manipulative, unable to trust, lack a sense of honesty and responsibility, and are deficient in many areas of their development. They may suffer from a variety of disorders which may include attachment disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder or Oppositional Defiant Disorder, all of which has a symptom of making false abuse allegations.

 

**Such children, due to their histories, typically behave in ways which jeopardize the security and stability of the families diligently striving to undo some of the damage of the past and to help the children develop more appropriate and socially acceptable behaviors. These children often lie and play on the responses of other adults who do not view their behaviors in the context of the children's prior experiences. Some children deliberately hurt those who offer help and try to destroy close relationships. After a sequence of adult rejections, they cannot accept that others care about or love them. It is not uncommon for the children to make false reports of abuse/neglect in an effort to control adult behavior or to deal with fears of close relationships.

 

**Parents of emotionally disturbed children are often held accountable for the child’s actions. The damage to these children took place before they entered the foster parent’s home, but when this child reacts to a situation in ways which have been learned from their past life experiences, it will be the foster parents who will have to answer allegations of abuse.

 

** What is viewed as non-abusive in a birth family home, may be considered abusive in the home of a foster care giver or adoptive parent, thus bringing statistics of abuse to a higher rate. Allowing a foster child to fall asleep in a highchair during dinner has been charged as child endangerment. Or taking a child too many times to McDonalds is considered physical abuse.

 

**Agency standards for investigations of alleged child abuse/neglect are not uniform in practice nor necessarily of high quality. Protective services workers may be untrained or inexperienced. Workers may not be familiar with the complexities of the pathologies displayed by the children and the stresses they bring to family living. The child's psychological, medical and educational records may not be considered in an investigation. Appropriate child management techniques and therapeutic interventions may be viewed out of context by those not familiar with their purposes.

 

Due to these factors, foster care givers and adoptive parents can be unfairly targeted and unduly stressed. When they should be receiving support and assistance from their agencies, they are forced to expend their energies on defending themselves in an attempt to prove the allegations are false.

 

When a serious allegation is made, the other foster children in the home will be removed. They are the innocent victims who will have to endure yet another move in their lives. Documented research shows, every move adds more trauma to an already fragile life and brings the certainty of failure to that child.

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We share a commitment to our children and a belief in the value of family life. Above all, we seek the health and well-being of all of our children. Therefore, we support the following:

 

**Agencies must support their families when an allegation of abuse/neglect has been made unless there is obvious proof that the allegation did occur. There is no law which prohibits them from doing so.

 

**Other children in the home should be taken to the agency and interviewed by experienced workers. If they deny any abuse occurred either to themselves or the accusing child, they may remain in the foster home until the investigation is completed.

 

**The children must never be removed from their homes in the middle of the night.

 

**The accused foster family must be immediately provided with the policies and rules of the agency, including the private agency, concerning investigations, such as in a packet of information which would be beneficial to the family. This should include the Administrative Code investigative procedures.

 

**Agencies must readily provide any and all documentation which can assist the foster or adoptive family in their defense, including interviews with any agency member who has had contact with the child without the fear of breaking confidentiality rules.

 

**The child's psychological, medical and educational records must be reviewed and testimony from knowledgeable therapists, educators and medical resources must be included in an investigation.

 

**Investigation workers must have years of experience and ongoing training when determining the outcome of an investigation. They must be knowledgeable of the behaviors and disorders presented by some foster and adoptive children.

 

**It is recommended that an allegation review board be formed to investigate allegations, a panel outside of the scope of Children Services, preferably a board made up of retired foster parents, police officers, judges, school teachers, and attorneys.

 

**If an allegation is found unsubstantiated and the foster/adoptive parents are willing to continue to provide foster care, the children must be returned to their home. Documented research shows the more a child is moved from home to home, the greater the chance of that child failing in the foster care system.

 

**As U.S. citizens, our constitutional rights must be upheld. We have the right to due process even with an administrative hearing. We have the right to know what we are being accused of and for an investigation to be done in a timely manner.


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* Excerpts have been taken from the Position Statement of the "New York State Citizens' Coalition for Children" and are noted in italics.

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It is guaranteed that sooner or later a parent or caregiver may have to deal with false allegations. Not until this happens to your family can you truly understand the devastation that occurs, not only to you but more importantly to the children in your home. It is through this list that we hope to provide support, but also to make changes in the way allegations are handled throughout the country.

PLEASE NOTE: We are not attorneys. This group is no substitute for your own attorney. We do urge you to assist your attorney in the preparation of your items that are essential to your case in anticipation of litigation. In U.S. v. Aldman, 134 F.3d 1194 (2d Cir. 1998) the Second Circuit held that "a document created because of anticipated litigation, which tends to reveal mental impressions, conclusions, opinions or theories concerning the litigation, does not lose work-product protection merely because it is intended to assist in the making of a business decision influenced by the likely outcome of the anticipated litigation." As such, all conversations on this list should be considered a part of the Attorney/Client Work-Product and anything posted on this list should be considered protected as such. Any disclosure of the Attorney/Client Work-Product by unauthorized persons in an attempt to hamper a person's defense of him or herself or their family can and will face legal action for theft.

 

Our  Purpose as a Group

Whatever your reasons for seeking out assistance we are glad that you found us.  We are very familiar with the nightmares that CPS puts us through as foster/adoptive/and natural parents, loving caring persons who only want to reach out to helpless children are endless and frightening.

Whether you are here to ask questions, learn more about fostering, or you are currently dealing with an allegation or any kind of a problem we are here to help you.

You see on this group we understand the horror you are facing when you stand accused of harming a child that you have loved and cared for in your home. We understand the pain that you are going through and we are here to help in any way that we can.This is something unique to CPS and the foster care system in general and it's called SUPPORT through RELATIONSHIP.

We are here to help, answer your questions, help with your case, advise you or sometimes just listen while you vent. Again, we are not attorneys but citizens and foster parents who care and want to help. We are here to SUPPORT one another and no one does it better than this group, my cyber family.

Glad you found us. Welcome to the group. I am glad that you found the RIGHT place to receive an education.. If you have questions fire away we will do our best to answer them.

Your group moderator,
 Marilyn, FPLS

 

Also, as one member said about Our Group:

This group represents such a wide variety of people:
-different states
-different ages, ethnicities and races
-different ages of the children involved
-single, married
-bio's, foster, adoptions
-New investigations, substantiations, and appeals
-cases involving legal, arrests, as well as CPS involvement
 
There are always going to be differences of opinions.  I mean, c'mon, I worked for the very system we oppose for several years.
 The key is RESPECT.  We all have to respect and support each other, and if sometimes we have to respectfully disagree - SO BE IT. 
 It is important to be honest and make your feelings known.

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 We do urge you to assist your attorney in the preparation of your items that are essential to your case in anticipation of litigation. In U.S. v. Aldman, 134 F.3d 1194 (2d Cir. 1998) the Second Circuit held that

 "..a document created because of anticipated litigation, which tends to reveal mental impressions, conclusions, opinions or theories concerning the litigation, does not lose work-product protection merely because it is intended to assist in the making of a business decision influenced by the likely outcome of the anticipated litigation..."

As such, all conversations on this list should be considered a part of the Attorney/Client Work-Product and anything posted on this list should be considered protected as such. Any disclosure of the Attorney/Client Work-Product by unauthorized persons in an attempt to hamper a person's defense of him or herself or their family can and will face legal action for theft.

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